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As a parent to a Teacher of Music



Thinking about Art makes me think tangentially about other things in general -but the process has become a helpful one.

As a parent I have been unable, for various reasons (reasonable and unreasonable) to provide the right conditions for my children to "listen" and to become good listeners of classical music. This lack comes with not having the context of classical music while growing up and what you "had" while growing up-  radio and movies filled the void . They took the place of art and also made it a habit hard to break.  Thus, I am aware of how there is a lack in my own understanding of the classical form and how much it is a good thing to have. 

Good art essentially is hard work producing beauty. A singer works hard and so does a painter. Stuff that comes out as talent and in-born is a rarity in real life. The appreciation of artists that I have is a learned one that I acquired from my artist friends.

Having listened/watched to performances I have this take from the experience- that the artists have the feeling of having "arrived" of being content with what they have i.e., their art form. It is usually good artists who have this in them. By good I mean not necessarily a moral good but rather someone who is able to draw you into their work of art with more than just an advertisement or a cursory call. Good artists also have a huge repository of hours of practice that hones their skill.

A singer-friend artist in his 40s learns from a teacher in India and loves it immensely. For singers, it is the power of breath that they acquire when training to sing. I am trying to provide this for my children through their art classes. It is something that no one will be able to take away from them- ever. It is an attempt at finding and providing alternative forms of feeling grounded and centered and this remains situated within you!

Then there is also the aspect of what children actually want to do. They may not be the best judge of that question, but at certain points in time, this question to them has helped us in providing a balance between what we think is right for them and what they think they- "love". This has helped us in setting boundaries and letting go- not perfectly orchestrated like it sounds- but still a workable scenario has evolved down the line.










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