Simple Serve

Look Up We have great expectations of business leaders and those who give us our paychecks. And also from those who fill our bellies and our desires for a good life with products and services. Apple. Microsoft. Facebook. Virgin Atlantic. Amazon. (No particular reference to any company due to the current events.) We find their ideas to be aspirational. Not so much when it comes to political leaders. That’s why we elected a few in 2016 and before that. Politics for the everyday person is a challenge that is not their mountain to climb. People debate the merits and demerits of a candidate down to shreds but it is a disservice to use standards set by politicians themselves to judge them. We judge them based on other politicians and the context. One’s sense of justice and what is of value is set aside for our personal/familial and sometimes the community well being. The same sensibility is not applied to elected leaders. Having said that, the Women’s marches and the general flux in t...

It's a delicate line between asking a woman what she wants and telling her what's good for her. It is something I learned the hard way (and got trained) as a women's advocate while working with women who seek out help. Initially- after the first feelings of "doing-good" you get to another plane where you see a pattern of women going back to abusive relationships (with good reas ons- stigma, children, financial stability -and those are real ones). Then all you want to do is be there for them. Be there. Be there. Without judgement. Secondly, as an advocate- you take a few calls everyday and meet a few women; a lot of them desperately seeking help and sometimes asking for shelter. You need to have a better handle on your own understanding about the fact that you are not the judge of what is to be the right thing for someone else's life. Meaning you counsel as a peer and not as a "helper" or a "fixer" of problems. The training I did as a...